Have you been avoiding bringing a hot-button topic up with your friend, co-worker or spouse? Here are three surprisingly simple communication skills that turn arguments into real understanding. RUN YOUR HANDS UNDER COLD WATER When I wash dishes, I have a problem, I like to use Read More →
Emotional Memories & Emotional Baggage
Two Types of Memory Your thinking brain creates memories using a special part of your brain called the hippocampus which is Latin for seahorse because it has a curlicue shape that sort of looks like a seahorse. This is the part of your brain that is responsible for remembering day-to-day Read More →
HOW STRESS MAKES YOU STUPID
Stress enlarges your habit brain and shrinks your decision-making brain. Chronic stress hormones trigger mindless habits instead of thoughtful action. When you are under chronic stress your brain releases stress hormones (adrenaline, noradrenaline and cortisol) which actually change your Read More →
Unconscious Flashbacks Cause Double Damage
Conscious flashbacks cause damage. Unconscious flashbacks cause double damage. My client John had certainly overreacted to a little thing of a car backfiring, taking his hands off the steering wheel and covering his face. When he finally gets to my office he hesitates and his eyes Read More →
Emotional Baggage: Putting Memories Out Of Your Mind
Putting memories and emotional baggage out of your mind does not put it out of your brain. So how is it that people can put things out of their minds? Well, it seems to be surprisingly simple. If you distract yourself every time a memory comes up - after a few hundreds or thousands of Read More →
Dream Induction – A fun way to beat insomnia
Do you have insomnia just because you can't turn off your mind? Dream induction allows you to turn off the TV and turn on a movie in your mind instead. Step 1 - Generate an emotion. Allow yourself to recall a positive memory. Vividly relive the memory using all five senses and then go Read More →
Overcome Procrastination By Chasing A Dream
If you map out any task from the start line to the finish line there are going to be parts that you love and parts that you hate. Procrastination occurs whenever you focus on the nightmare you hate. Productivity happens whenever you focus on the dream you love. When I was working on Read More →
How Your Emotional Brain Pulls The Plug on Your Thinking Brain
While your thinking brain has several ways of containing and controlling emotional reactions (neuroscientists are mapping these out as you are reading this) your emotional brain has one giant kill switch that allows it to pull the plug on the thinking brain. The way this works is that your Read More →
Your Internal GPS-How anxiety can make you lose your way
Your internal GPS was designed to help you chase your dreams, anxiety resets your GPS to make you run away from nightmares. Now at any moment in your life you are either chasing a dream or you are running away from a nightmare. Your brain has just 2 gears, forward and reverse, you are Read More →
Emotional Baggage Transformed to Wisdom
You are walking down your path of life and someone throws a rock and hits you. You stoop down and pick up the rock. To prevent them from throwing it at you again you put it in your backpack. You also find that since the rock is in your backpack you do not have to see it and be reminded Read More →