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Home > Anger Management > How to really recover from trauma and stress

How to really recover from trauma and stress

Posted on 01.24.17 No Comments

missing-piece-of-memory-shutterstock_242439133Trying to put painful or traumatic memories out of your mind only stores them in a different part of your brain allowing them to resurface later.

Have you ever tried to put one of your angry, sad, scary, embarrassing, shameful, rejected or stressful memories  ‘out of your mind’ only to have it resurface days, weeks or even years later with all of its pain and anguish?  For some people, it’s not all that hard to do at first, all you have to do is distract yourself and focus on something else every time the memory comes to mind.  Eventually, after a hundred or so times your brain figures out that you don’t want to think about that memory and it prevents it from coming into your conscious mind.

While this may work in the short run it doesn’t work in the long run.  The concept of putting a memory ‘out of your mind’ is a little silly if you think about it.  Are you taking it out of your mind and putting it in your big toe?  Obviously, it is only shifted from one part of your brain to another.  It is only shifted to a place where you are no longer consciously aware of it. These suppressed memories continue to affect you emotionally, just without your knowledge.

Any memory that causes you to hurt in the present whenever you think of it isn’t in the past at all – in fact, it is truly in the present.  Merely thinking about it changes your present heart rate, your present blood pressure, your present thought processes, your present mood, etc..  Hence, the only true way to put the past in the past is to allow the memory to heal to the point that it no longer hurts, no matter how vividly you relive it or how you think about it.

Thankfully there are now powerful treatments available that will help you to truly put your past in the past, that can help your painful, stressful and even traumatic memories to fully heal.  So with the right help, you don’t have to carry any painful memory around for the rest of your life. Imagine how it will feel to finally have free access to your whole brain because there won’t be any place in your memory where you are afraid to go.

CategoriesAnger Management Anxiety Depression Emotional Baggage Grief and Loss Stress Trauma and PSTD When Talk Therapy Is Not Enough

David Russell

David Russell

Dr. Dave Russell is a clinical psychologist who specializes in intensive individual and couples therapy using 90-minute and 3-hour sessions – where client’s can achieve up to 3 month’s worth of therapy in each session – to fully resolve emotional baggage, hot buttons and trigger points. He has his doctorate in clinical psychology from Rutgers and did his internship at Yale. Before going into full time practice he was a clinical instructor at Yale and the director of outpatient services at Klingberg Family Centers. His practice MCH/Russell Associates, LLC in West Hartford, CT has clients who come for face-to-face sessions from as far away as New York City and Boston, clients who come for week-long intensives from all over the United States and clients who work via phone or Skype from as far away as Australia, Canada and the UK.

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