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ANGER MANAGEMENT 201: Do You Blurt, Block or Channel Your Anger

Posted on 11.29.16 No Comments

Anger Management

True Anger Management isn’t about controlling your anger, its learning to channel your anger.

Blurting your anger hurts others. Blocking your anger hurts you. Channeling your anger is the only permanent solution to anger management.

There are three basic ways that you can express anger.  Young children blurt out their anger, they express it in a raw physical form such as screaming, hitting or throwing blocks.  Cartoons and fairy tales are violent because they express children’s raw fantasies.  One of three things can happen to this basic pattern.

  1. BLURT – Children who don’t learn to control their anger at all grow up to become under-controlled adults who continue to blurt their anger. This is like letting the brook in your backyard flow wherever it wants even if it floods your basement.
  2. BLOCK – Children may learn to block the expression of their anger completely.  Doing this is like damming up the brook without floodgates.  Eventually the dam overflows or bursts.  These children grow up to be over-controlled adults who give in way too much until they explode.
  3. CHANNEL – The third possibility is that children learn to channel their anger,  finding more socially appropriate ways of fully expressing the emotion.  This is like changing the course of the brook by digging a channel so that the water now flows far away from your basement.  Children who learn to channel their anger grow up as assertive adults who express anger in the best way at the best time.

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David Russell

David Russell

Dr. Dave Russell is a clinical psychologist who specializes in intensive individual and couples therapy using 90-minute and 3-hour sessions – where client’s can achieve up to 3 month’s worth of therapy in each session – to fully resolve emotional baggage, hot buttons and trigger points. He has his doctorate in clinical psychology from Rutgers and did his internship at Yale. Before going into full time practice he was a clinical instructor at Yale and the director of outpatient services at Klingberg Family Centers. His practice MCH/Russell Associates, LLC in West Hartford, CT has clients who come for face-to-face sessions from as far away as New York City and Boston, clients who come for week-long intensives from all over the United States and clients who work via phone or Skype from as far away as Australia, Canada and the UK.

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